me: i have depression
person: *suddenly becomes mental health expert, nutritionist, spiritual guide* why dont u try yoga why dont u eat lots of fruit maybe u should exercise have u tried keeping a journal have u tried yoga have u tried meditation have u tried sitting in the sun have u tried patting a dog have u tried exercise yoga in the fruit sun yoga yoga
I’m gonna say this officially and not just in my tags: accusing bisexuals of having straight passing privilege is heteronormative and monosexist garbage and i wish a thousand spiders to hang out in the peripheral vision of everyone who says or believes any shit like that.
Ugh no. If you are in a hetero passing relationship YOU HAVE PRIVILEGES THAT GAYS AND LESBIANS DO NOT, BECAUSE YOU ARE PERCEIVED AS STRAIGHT. “erasure” is not as oppressive as being threatened, beaten, or even killed because you are seen with the same sex. This is coming from a bisexual. I am safe walking down the street with a male partner. I am not safe walking with a female partner. That is the truth and “erasure” doesn’t even begin to compare to the issues that “monosexuals” face.
The reason it’s called straight passing privilege is not cause you’re actually straight, but because people will think you’re straight and “normal”. How is that in ANY way ~~~~~heteronormative~~~~~. ???? Like this is just basic shit. People don’t care what you really are, they care how you are seen. And as my love unpretty-princess said, if you’re walking down the street holding hands with someone of the opposite sex it’s highly unlikel you’ll be attacked for being bisexual.
And it goes even deeper than that, there is an element of privilege that bi girls have over lesbians (not saying they’re not oppressed), because they still like men, so it’s kinda more acceptable. When I was out as bi (for about four years, so don’t start calling e an evil monosexual who has no idea about being bi), no one in my famiy cared THAT much, because yeah I told them I liked girls, but it was easier for them to act like it was a phase because I had a boyfriend.
And now that I’m out as a lesbian I faced a whole fucking intervention. I had my entire family freaking out and telling me to be careful and actually getting pretty nasty about it. And my “friends” too. They can’t pretend me liking girls is some teen trend anymore. Not that being being bi is a trend, just that literally all the girls at my school called themselves bi at one point. I lost a bunch of female friends over coming out as a lesbian.
Being bisexual made me sexy and edgy, being a lesbian made me scary and predatory. I’ve literally had girls say they’re ok with bi girls, but lesbians are the most disgusting thing ever.
Rambling a bit here, but the whole straight passing shit isn’t that hard to understand. Please don’t go around trashing us “monosexuals” because you really have no idea what you’re talking about